Wow, some people really are heartless. I created a contest entry last month for a group I am now banned from. I'm apparently banned because of the conversation below.
Said contest entry was submitted before the contest ended, a week before I went on vacation, on the 19th of June. For some reason unknown to me, my entry was never approved...it just sat, waiting to be approved. A journal went through the group on the 26th of June, asking if any entries were not approved yet. The contest ended on the 20th or 21st...so the group moderator waited almost a week before getting around to this. I posted that mine wasn't. The moderator asked for the link to the entry, and I posted it. I heard nothing back that day so I figured all was good.
The next day, the 27th of June, I left early in the morning (around 5:30am) to head out to Disneyland. I was gone from then until Sunday morning (1:30am) the 3rd. After getting sleep, we headed out to town. Didn't think to check dA since everything should have been fine with all my contest entries...I never got an email saying otherwise. The 4th was also a busy day...grocery shopping...so I didn't get a chance to check dA then, either.
So, on the 5th, when I finally got a chance to sit down and get caught up on things, this is what I find in my notes here:
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Jun 29, 2011, 11:58:28 AM (removed) said the following:
For your piece to be included in the contest please approve the request I sent. I sent the request a day ago so it should be waiting for you. Please complete this within 48 hours. Thank you.
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Uh, considering I left town early on the 27th, I wasn't around on the 28th or 29th. I had a journal posted about this on the front of my dA page. Obviously I still wanted in the contest or I wouldn't have bothered to reply to the journal with my link on the 26th. My email addy is also on my dA page...I was checking my email on my mobile phone while I was gone.
So this is what I wrote back:
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1d 13h ago RavenMoonDesigns said the following:
I really hope my piece will be included in the contest, since I created it specifically for it. I have been out of town on vacation since the 27th of June and have not been able to log onto dA until now. I have approved the request just now. Thank you.
~ Brandy
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Well, about 12 hours later, I saw my response had been read, but no response was given back. I also saw that the voting poll had already been posted. I wrote again:
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23h 55m ago RavenMoonDesigns said the following:
Hello,
Still wondering if something is going to be done about this. It is highly unfair that my entry was not included in the voting poll. I followed all contest rules, and I submitted before the contest end date. Had this image not been done specifically for this contest, I wouldn't be so adamant about it...but I did create it specifically for this contest.
I submitted on the 19th and left for vacation on the 27th. That was plenty of time to get this situation sorted out and my entry included. As I stated, I was out of town and very busy during the week I was gone...so I didn't get a chance to check dA until last night. I had thought after I sent the link to my entry on the 26th (the day before I left) that all was good and it would be included, so I didn't think about it while I was out of town. Even an email sent directly to me to notify me that I need to approve it would have been nice (as I was checking my email via my mobile phone).
I feel rather hurt that I was essentially forgot about and left out of the contest simply because for some reason my entry wasn't approved when I submitted it (over 2 weeks ago), and then I went on vacation thinking it would be included, only to come back and find it wasn't.

~ Brandy
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The response I got:
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21h 49m ago (removed) said the following:
Please note it is too late to do anything about it at this point. The poll was started a while ago. If you wish to remove your entry or entries from the gallery I respect your decision.
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Too late?? The poll had only been up about 4 days from when I first responded! In another group I'm in, there was a huge discrepancy with some of the entries as well as after a winner was picked. That whole thing was scraped and we started over with a re-vote...after the vote had been going for about a week or two and winners were picked. But in this group I am now banned from, 4 days is too late?? After I had already submitted my entry before the end date, after I responded with a link right before I left on vacation (remember, she waited almost a week after the contest ended to even begin asking for entries that somehow didn't get approved)...I am the one who is too late??? WTF???
So, I responded back...a little more irked this time:
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16h 20m ago RavenMoonDesigns said the following:

So, through someone else's fault, I have to pay for it?? It was NOT my fault my entry was not included. Whomever it is who was supposed to approve submissions is at fault here. I submitted IN TIME. In the Elrond contest, the poll was delayed for a while (we're talking weeks here) because of the other person not responding. But in this one, you couldn't bother to give me the same courtesy?? I even wrote a journal that is still on my main dA page about being out of town for a week and that I most likely won't be able to respond during that time. But of course, no one bothered to check that, just like no one bothered to email me directly (my email addy is also listed on my main dA page). Seems like when someone screws up around here, the blame doesn't go on them, but on the innocent person who only wanted to enter a contest.
If you won't bother to give me the courtesy of having my entry included, since none of this was my fault in the first place, then I must say, your group is one not worth being in...and I will remove all my artwork, as well as spread the word that this group does not care about it's members. I'm beyond hurt now, this really ticks me off. I take time to enter the contest and get my entry in ON TIME (more than 2 weeks ago), someone else screws up and then you say too bad??? Really great way to keep members.

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To which I got this reply:
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6h 4m ago (removed) said the following:
Please leave the group.
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I wrote a response to this, only to find she banned me from both responding to her, as well as banned from the group. (So why she told me to leave, I don't know. She could have just said she banned me and save me the trouble of writing a response.)
I was hurt that she couldn't be bothered to wait a few more days like she did with the previous contest (or even, Gods forbid, email me personally), but her responses really ticked me off...seems like she didn't even really care. I was too much a bother for her, so I was banned. Like I said...some people are just heartless. And when you run a group that way, don't be surprised if you start losing members. If you want people to care about you, it would be in your best interest to care about them as well.